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Peg has decided to blog to spotlight non-profits you may not have heard of, address local education issues, and provide social commentary on local, state, national and international issues to get things “off her chest." This may induce laughter, or rage, depending on your perspective. Peg is best known as a community activist. After graduating with a UCSB Sociology degree with an emphasis in American Socialization she began writing freelance articles for newspapers. For twenty years she had a special event company. Her first, foremost and favorite role is as mother to her two children. Her minimal spare time is spent writing, reading, gardening, practicing yoga, and planning travel adventures.

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A different kind of New Year's Resolution

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Contributed by: Peg Hicks-Moore on 12/7/2007

As the end of the year approaches, I look back on 2007 and understand that none of us want to consider that we will not be here in 2008. But this is possible, if not probable. With that said, if you are 25 or 75, I encourage (and if you are 75 I would like to insist), that you make your end-of-life decisions now, or as a New Year's resolution, and put these morbid, yet necessary decisions behind you as soon as possible. I guarantee you will feel better about your future. Ironic, isn't it?

It will be one less thing to have to think about for you, and for your loved ones who may have to coordinate the "disposal of your remains". Repugnant idea? Rather than thrusting these responsibilities upon others with no planning aforethought, lead a life unfettered with death encumbrances by providing clear directives now, and reduce the stress on your loved ones.

This is not bad luck, it is simply a positive affirmation that you want things to end as you dictate, not as the courts or strangers who do not know you dictate, or relatives who are unsure.

First, write a will. You can find simple templates on line from Nolo Press and elsewhere. Either do this in the comfort of your home, on your own stationery having it signed by two witnesses who are not related to you, (which will probably require the State to intervene with a "mini probate") or go to a lawyer who specializes in estate planning and draw up a will and/or a trust in his or her office for a fee.

Decide how you want to go, and who should be told of your passing. Do you want a big gathering in a rented hall? Do you want a mortuary to have a ceremony in one of their designated rooms, and then be interred in the ground at a local cemetery? What will your headstone say? Do you envision the long line of hearse and limousines, or would you like a simpler, more organic process whereby you are cremated and have you ashes scattered at sea or in the mountains along one of your favorite hiking trails?

Visualize it. You can even pick out the music you would like played at one of your "post" parties now. The thought of an organ playing "Nearer My God To Thee" makes me cringe, and does not reflect who I am, (or, um, was) so I have been clear in my directives. You can decide every facet of your estate disbursement, your internment, and your last wishes, but only if you put it in writing as you cannot be consulted on the final decisions if you leave sooner than expected!
With that said, here's hoping you have many long, healthy years ahead of you.

"Lucky stars above you,
Sunshine on your way,
Many friends to love you,
Joy in work and play.
Laughter to outweigh each care
In your heart a song
And gladness waiting everywhere
All your whole life long!
-Irish blessing

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