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Harmless Bachelor Parties

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Contributed by: Dame von Fiess on 4/2/2007

Annie's Mailbox, April 2, 2007
"Most bachelor parties are harmless"

Dear Annie: My husband is a groomsman for one of his very close friends. The bachelor party is supposed to be a three-day event in another state and will include at least one visit to a strip club.

I don't approve of the strip club part, especially because at the last out-of-town bachelor party, my husband said he stayed in the hotel room and skipped the strip club. Two months later, I found out he'd gone with his friends but chose not to tell me. He said he didn't want to upset me.

I still feel betrayed about that and don't want him going on another such adventure. Should I put my foot down, or should I say nothing and have it bother me for who knows how long? - Confused

ANNIE'S ANSWER:

Dear Confused: While we are not fond of married men in strip clubs, we also know that most such events are harmless. In the majority of strip clubs, the dancers are not permitted to be touched by the customers, nor are they looking to have affairs. However, three-day, out-of-state bachelor parties, with strip clubs and liquor, can lead to serious trouble and push trust to the limit - with harsh consequences. Most men do not want to miss out on events that include their closest friends, and wives who get in the way are often resented. But men who respect their partners will behave in a trustworthy fashion, watching their alcohol intake and calling home regularly, and will value their relationships enough not to do anything they will later regret.

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THE ANSWER SHOULD HAVE BEEN:

Dear Confused: You have every right to feel betrayed that your husband lied to you about visiting a strip club, and now wants to do it again. But don't be surprised. Most men will lie to the women in their life about such adventures.

But there will be no putting down of feet. If your husband wants to watch young women take their clothing off and sexually gyrate in his presence while asking for money, there is little you can do about it. As a loving, supportive partner you must wish him well and say "Have a good time, sweetie."

Next, inform him of your plans to spend a weekend away with your girlfriends. You will be wearing your sexiest little outfits and hitting the upscale bars and country clubs, enjoying the harmless attention of wealthy, virile men. Your hubby should have no trouble understanding and supporting your desire to have fun with your friends. And you will be having such a good time you will not be concerned about what your husband, or anyone else, is doing.

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